Adding to this conversation, I have had more experience than I want with the framing of sobriety to motivate myself to want to stop drinking. When i operate from the scarcity mindset- “I can’t drink”, drinking is bad. That’s when I have been tripped up and relapsed leading to the dreaded shame spiral!
When I think of sobriety as more..more Jesus, more clarity, more energy, better relationships and all the benefits we all know.
Ultimately an abundance mindset for has sustained my sobriety for the long haul. So yes! More Jesus!! I’ve had to test this theory again and again because I have an alcoholic’s mind! 🙃
Love this man. Reminds me of some great research on the psychology of perversity, which essentially finds that the more blatant or focused you make certain perverse tendencies (like drinking), the more likely you are to drink. It’s like the more you obsess over the rules you shouldn’t break, the more likely you are to break those rules.
My own sobriety journey mirrors almost exactly what you lined out here. Thanks for this.
Adding to this conversation, I have had more experience than I want with the framing of sobriety to motivate myself to want to stop drinking. When i operate from the scarcity mindset- “I can’t drink”, drinking is bad. That’s when I have been tripped up and relapsed leading to the dreaded shame spiral!
When I think of sobriety as more..more Jesus, more clarity, more energy, better relationships and all the benefits we all know.
Ultimately an abundance mindset for has sustained my sobriety for the long haul. So yes! More Jesus!! I’ve had to test this theory again and again because I have an alcoholic’s mind! 🙃
Love how you said that!!!
Love this man. Reminds me of some great research on the psychology of perversity, which essentially finds that the more blatant or focused you make certain perverse tendencies (like drinking), the more likely you are to drink. It’s like the more you obsess over the rules you shouldn’t break, the more likely you are to break those rules.
My own sobriety journey mirrors almost exactly what you lined out here. Thanks for this.
I can always count on you to add something substantive to the conversation. Love this!
So very well and accurately articulated. When we "stop" drinking is when the real struggle begins. Got to be a greater reason.
I'd never thought of it that way before, but I agree with you as my experience has been the same. Great perspective.